Party Etiquette

3.06.2012


Let's talk party etiquette. No, not that party, but linky party etiquette.
I wasn't going to put this out there, but I think many bloggers, most likely new ones and some older ones, don't understand why party hosts ask that you link back to there blog IN THE POST.
The answer is TRAFFIC! The original purpose of the creation of linky parties is to drive traffic to blogs.
When you link to a party you are getting traffic from people who click on that thumbnail image. When I look at the number of views through inlinkz , some of you are getting hundreds of visits from my party.
If you don't have a VISIBLE LINK back to the PARTY HOST then the host is NOT getting any traffic from people who visit your blog because they don't have a clue what party you have your post linked to. Now, does that sound fair?

  Just saying, I am joining the PARTIES HERE OR ON MY PARTY PAGE OR DOWN AT THE BOTTOM OF THE BLOG OR ON MY SIDEBAR is NOT the proper way to link back. That does not tell people what blog party your post is linked to. Most of you are not linking your post to every party you have in a list that you are asking people to go look at. It needs to be EASY to find in your post. Do you take the time to search someone's blog for what party they are linked to? I doubt it.
 It would be nice to receive new traffic from your link backs in your post just like you receive new traffic from the parties you join.

I love when people say it takes a lot of time to list all those parties that I am linking to.
It takes a lot of time to host these parties, too. 
How many times have you read a blog post and you see a party link in the post and you click on it to check it out and found a new party to join? In fact, you probably came across a new blog. That is why you add a visible link or button in the post.

I appreciate all of you who do take the time to add my button or a highlighted link in your post to my party each week. I truly do not like having to delete those who have not taken the time to link properly.

Just please show respect to the hosts and we can all grow from these parties. TRAFFIC driven to blogs is why these parties were developed in the first place.

Thanks for reading and let's enjoy the parties and grow together.

See you tonight for Wow Us Wednesdays!

64 comments:

  1. Thank you for explaining that. I'm sure I'm guilty, but not intentionally. I'm a new blogger and link back was new to me. I always post the button, but not always the link back. I'll do better from now on. In defense of a newer blogger, sometimes a party host changes the rules a little and because I've been partying there in the past, I might not have noticed that they now want a linkback. I think in the future, I'll just link back every party. Your reasons make so much sense.

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  2. Ha! You are SO CORRECT!!! I have always placed the buttons with the links after my posts. About a month ago, I started writing the party name and location with the link attached to save space. But either way, they are on THE POST ITSELF!!!

    The funny twist for me is that is DOES take way too much time to link up. I don't know how so many others link up to a ton of parties. I just don't have the time. In fact, I have taken time off from parties because I am burnt out on it all!!!!

    The other issue is that there are WAY TOO MANY bloggers doing parties! I have seen newbie bloggers trying their hand at it and marketing the crap out of themselves all over the blogs. I have seen a serious uptick in this because I constantly have people looking at my projects just to invite me to their parties. I don't want to offend anyone, but come on people....we only have so much time!!!

    Your blog is always worth the time, because I do get a lot of traffic from it and I TRULY appreciate it! :)

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  3. Well said. I try to always link back. I don't link up to parties on a regular basis, only when I have something to show. I wish I could but time won't allow plus my creativity would probably be stifled after a while.
    I'm having a giveaway on my blog and would love for you to come check it out!

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  4. Great post, I can't imagine the time it takes to check out all the linkers and see if they have linked back to the party. I love your parties, and wouldn't want to do it incorrectly. Very tactful post:)

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  5. hi Kim, comment page popped right up~not sure what is up with FB link...anyway I think it is a ton of work to host a party, so i have NEVER wanted to add to my load. I always link back...its common courtesy, I can't believe it needs to be spelled out. Sad but true~

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  6. Good post Kim. I always link back to the party giver and the party post. I have seen people link back to the party host, but not the actually party post....

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  7. Three cheers Kim!! I am also having issues with more than three posts! It pains me to delete but really people don't want to hop on over to somebodies blog 5 and 7 times. Hope you have a great day and see ya tonight for WUW!

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  8. THANK you Kim! This is a wonderful post, and so well said. I deal with this myself on a regular basis with my newbie party. Some do not even know what link back means. I try to help so many out on this topic. Thanks again, I truly hope this helps people understand.

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  9. Always do and have done from the beginning! I have seen where they direct you to their sidebar but who feels like hunting for it?
    One other thing too, I was guilty of this, is thanking the hostess of the party in the comment section, when this was pointed out I thought OMG I'm so guilty of not doing that,so now I do. It does take extra time sure but at a real life party it's done.:)
    Have a great day!

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  10. Can't imagine how much work it is to host the parties! Thanks for having them for us and all the support!

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  11. I have always placed your name and link at the bottom of my post, IN the post itself. I never join a party without a link to it IN my posts.
    It is hard for me to understand why anyone would link up and NOT have the link in their post,.....but I know it happens.
    Thanks for being such a loyal party host...you are always there for us.
    This is something I am having a bit of a problem with ....linking up to someone and then find THEY ARE NOT HAVING IT THAT WEEK. Rubs me wrong....
    if they are hosting a weekly party, there's the scheduled post option that I feel they should use. I can't tell you how many times I have been left in the lurch because they were out of town or whatever. There's no possible way for us to know that.

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  12. Kim, Thank you for posting what has been on my mind for quite a while! I know the amount of work involved in putting together a weekly party and I appreciate everything you do.

    I have heard some bloggers say they don't get visitors from parties any more so they no longer join in. I see so many linking up and then going on to the next party. I am a firm believer that you get back what you put in. I built my blog by joining parties and visiting other blogger's links. Taking the time to visit and leave comments will drive more visitors to your own blog and you will also find new and interesting blogs to follow. xo, Sherry

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  13. What I really don't get is how people can possibly link to 40-50 parties! Seriously, I counted that many on someone's post the other day! How in the world can they possibly expect to visit all of the hosts and the party goers? Guess what- they can't! They are only self-promoting and don't care about anyone else.

    In my opinion, linky party memes were created to foster comraderie and give others an opportunity to see the creativity that is out there in the land of blog. In addition, they do serve to generate traffic for the meme host AND the linker, which is great! It is only fitting and proper that a link-back be included within a post so that others are able to visit the host blog and its participants. To address Penny's statement that the link-back is not always post-specific- often, a post is written before the person links up to the actual party. When that person includes the site button or text links, there is no post-specific address to include- only the general blog address of the party host, since the host hasn't posted that blog party as of yet. Yes, a person could go back in and change the address to be site-specific- but how many people actually remember to go back in and do that? I think most people are intelligent enough to visit the actual linky party on or after the party day post has been enabled. And most of the buttons for the parties I participate in do show a day for the party. If not, sometimes I'll enter a day underneath the button. But that is if I have the time and/or remember to do so! LOL The old memory doesn't work as well as it used to! *grin*

    Hope you can educate more people on this entire issue- too many people just "link and run" and don't even bother to leave a comment for the host! Now THAT is rude!!!

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  14. Hi Kim,
    That was a great reminder for us all. I always make sure I link back to the party. I know you and other party hosts have a big job to do and it is only fair that we all do our part!
    -Shelley

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  15. I always link back with a link, button or both.

    Mary Ellen
    The Working Home Keeper

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  16. You are absolutely right, Kim! Sometimes these things have to be said. If you can take the time to link your post up to a party you can certainly take the time to put the hosts link in. I join in several parties over the course of a week. I usually draft my posts ahead of time and schedule their day to go live. I call them back with my Live Writer program and put the link for the current party in the text where I mention it as each party goes live. I have seen at certain linky parties where links won't post unless you have the party hosts link set up. A message actually comes up telling you!

    I go back and forth on linking up anyway. I find I don't get many comments from other party goers, more my followers. I may get the traffic, but not many are reciprocating the comments I leave on their posts.

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  17. Thank you, thank you, thank you, Kim! You are very much appreciated!

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  18. This is really good to have out there. The first month I was linking, we just used a party page because that's what we saw other blogs doing, but when we figured out how rude we were being, we started linking back IN the post. Also, I love the pic, haha :)

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  19. I've noticed that some blogs have a new setting that tells you if you don't have a link back to their blog party and it won't allow you to link if you don't. This is a great idea. I'm not sure if this is a setting through inlinkz or not? Something I need to check into.

    --Katie
    @ Creatively Living

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  20. Kim,
    Thank you for hosting each week. I always look forward to the party whether or not I am linking. I know that it takes tons of your time and I appreciate the fact that you try to visit participants and comment. I have participated in other parties and have never received a comment from the hostess which I think is quite strange. You know, come to my party but I don't have time to say hello! Keep up the good work!

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  21. Someone had to take the bull (or cow) by the horns. And finally something myself as a newbie has been getting right. For me it wasn't rocket science to add the specific link I'm linking too. Honestly I can't keep the parties I link at straight if I don't add them individually. Its a good reference for me so I can go back to check if I already linked a specific post before to a party.

    ~Bliss~

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  22. Hi Kim,

    I so agree with you. You have helped my blog grow by your link parties. I hope you have also gained new followers though me. ❤

    Happy Blogging.

    xo,
    Dee

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  23. I am so embarrased that I didn't think of it that way! I was listing all of the parties directly on my post but then started to notice everyone linking to a page that had all the buttons so I thought that was the way to do it! You are so right though and I will definatley not make that mistake again! Thank you for sharing!

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  24. This is a good discussion and good information Kim. Hosting is a huge commitment. I could likely never do it. Even as a participant I have to decline many party invitations because I don't have time to visit, and I hope no one feels slighted by that. I feel alright if I can visit several links, but I always feel like I need to visit most of the links in a smaller party. Especially if I know them all! And there are so many of us linking the same posts to the same various parties on the same nights. Feels crazy. But thank you, I am one of those getting hundreds of hits from you. And yours has so many amazing posts out there every week.

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  25. Kim,

    I agree 100%. Yours is one of the only parties I link to. You have always been so kind and wonderful and I think your party is the best. At least, it's definitely my favorite. I have been saying, "I'm linking at Kim's." with a link back to make it seem more personal. Do you think I should add "Savvy Southern Style?" too? I don't mind doing that....I just wanted it to be personal. I can't STAND the huge amount of impersonal links at the end of someone's post.

    blessings,
    karianne

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  26. I am happy you wrote this. I include the link at the bottom of each post, and I try really hard to limit the number of parties I have there, so you aren't looking at 50 parties trying to figure it out.

    I do also like when people have a whole page dedicated to parties (in addition) since as a new blogger it can give me ideas about where I would like to party:)

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  27. Thanks for explaining this, Kim. I have never yet linked to a party but I hope to do that one day. Now I know how important it is to do that! xo Diana

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  28. Hi Kim, thanks for posting this I am still new to this and I am sure mistakes were made but not intentionally.

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  29. I come to your blog daily because I love your style and information. I have never hosted a party but will keep this valuable information when or if I do. Thanks for sharing.

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  30. I completely agree! I never realized how much work it was to host a party and now that I do, I have a whole new appreciation! I would almost always link back to the blogs in my post (probably 95% of the time) but now it's 100%! It's all about respect and I don't think some blogger realize that. I can't stand it when I despise the "see my party page" in posts!!! It does take some time to do the linking and adding the links, but in the end it really drives traffic both ways. It's the polite thing to do! Anyone who says they "don't have time" is just being selfish.

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  31. You said something very important in a kind way...always a sign of good manners! I have a short list of parties because I'm busy but WOW is always on there. I am loyal to those who were kind enough to follow me or respond to me when I was just starting out. Hopefully you will see some improvement and reduce YOUR valuable time spent deleting entries!
    Blessings, Lorraine

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  32. Kim-
    Thank you so much for taking the time to do this! As a newbie there is definately a learning curve and without the assistance of ladies like you we would be lost. Thank you for allowing us to share our creations with you and your followers.

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  33. Kim, I only link with a few parties, yours being one of them. I am ever vigilant to always link to your site. I thank you for the traffic it generates for me. I actually believe in visiting within the party I link to and not linking to so many that that is impossible to do. hugs, olive

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  34. I used to do parties but quit because I just didn't feel right about linking up and not being able to visit most or all of the participants. Hosting a party takes so much time, I would never want to do it, so I feel it's only fair that the host blog asks for the simple request that participants link back to them. Just as I have found great blogs through link parties, I have also stumbled upon great hosts through link backs on people's posts. It has to go both ways in order for it to be helpful to all involved though, so good on you for bringing this up!

    Kat :)

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  35. I always link back in the post to the parties that I join.
    I have found an easy way of adding all these parties to a post.
    I did a draft post of all the parties that I link to with the links attached to each party name. When I do a new post, I return to this post with all my parties and Copy and Paste it to the bottom of my new post. Then I delete any parties that I will not be linking that post up to. It only takes a couple minutes for me to add links to all the parties that I participate in to each post I do.
    I appreciate the time it takes to host a party so your button is on my side bar and your link is always in my posts!

    Hugs,
    Deb

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  36. Thank you Kim for explaining this in detail. It's kind of like "parenting" there is no set guidelines on having a blog and all that it entails. A lot of us are still learning the ins and outs. I certainly appreciate all of the exposure that I have received from your blog and others. I love getting this kind of advice and look forward to more posts like this!
    XO Cindy

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  37. Very well said, girl! I always link back to the person's blog rather than the party post itself though. That way my followers will go to your entire blog (and fall in love) rather than being stuck on just the one post. Plus I read somewhere that it gives the party host more SEO presence than if it's linked to a specific post. I'm totally confused about SEO though (as you can tell from the size of my blog) so I wouldn't take that as the gospel.

    Thank you for all the extra traffic from your party, it's one of the few that create significant traffic anymore!

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  38. Tell 'em, Kim! Kidding ... that was a great explanation, and I hope that I've always linked back properly. As always, thanks for hosting WUW!

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  39. Amen fellow party hostess!!! So appreciate you putting this out there Kim and totally agree too with what Sue shared in her comment. Thanks for helping to spread the word! :-)
    Vanessa

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  40. Amen to all of that! I have thought of hosting a party but honestly, I don't have the time to devote to it and I can't begin to imagine all of the time you who host put into these parties! So, a BIG THANK YOU again and thanks for making the 'party etiquette' clear.

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  41. OK Kim, I'm confused (or just plain dumb) not sure which. But as a new linky party guest am I doing it right? I do put at the bottom or my post I am linking to: but I then post the big link back button from your blog, not just a mention! Is that correct? Oh dear perhaps I need to read again!

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  42. Amen Kim, and fellow party hostess! Thank you for a clear explanation of linking back. Well said.

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  43. I think you have explained it well, Kim. Your blog is one of three that consistently sends the most traffic to my blog -weekly, monthly, and all time. I appreciate that. My blog is not big, but it only makes sense that many of my visitors and followers would have stopped by from these three blogs too. I always put a text link at the bottom of each post (and test it to make sure I did it correctly too.)

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  44. Excellent post. When I was new I didn't know what link back meant. But I kept trying and figured it out. There were a few weeks where I'm sure I wasn't linking correctly. I don't join a party unless I have time to visit all of my "neighbors." The link on either side of me and the links above and below me. Sometime I link up with you and then on the weekend when I have more time I make my visits. I do think there are too many linky parties out there. I understand why bloggers what to host one though. I would love to...not enough time and it would be just one more party. I've always said I was a year or two late in starting my blog. I think I missed the proverbial boat. Thanks very much for hosting every week. You are and have been for months my highest referring URL.

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  45. You are one of the few party hosts who actually makes a personal comment every time we participate, and we really appreciate that. I know it takes a LOT of your time. I think you explained your position perfectly. Hey, it's your party!!!

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  46. Great post on an important topic. You were very tactful and your post informational in explaining link party etiquette and the rationale/reasoning behind it. I am sure you educated many. Also, thanks for taking the time and effort to host your WOW party every week.

    Lori

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  47. Hi Kim. Thanks very much for explaining that. I understand what you're saying. Linky parties aren't as popular here in Australia as they are in the US. My problem is, I don't always link up to the same blog's linky parties week in, week out. I only link up if I think I have something 'link worthy'. I find it frustrating that I might make something on say Friday, then have to go back to re-edit my blog post on the Wednesday just so I can link up. I don't usually bother. That's not to say that I don't love your blog and your content as well as the other lovely link ups. I have been hosting a linky party these last 8 or so weeks and I don't think there's much to it. I think it's my easiest post of the week and I love having people link up just so I can see how talented they are, that's all. Thank you so much for explaining it and thanks for your lovely weekly party. I always get so much inspiration from your blog Kim.

    Anne @ Domesblissity (in Australia) xx

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  48. Hey Kim if this was facebook I would "like" it, LOL! I always put the link in when I join a linky party. What I have NEVER been able to do (and always wanted to) is put the "button" in my post. How do I do that? I can't use the excuse I'm blonde anymore, I colored my hair darker! ;)
    Kristi

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  49. Ok I just tried again (and failed again, lol) I tried to "link" the button and that didn't work either......

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  50. Kim,
    Thank you and well said.I know when I first started I messed up a bit.I am sure I did because I was learning.I always set the links up first before I join the party that way I don't forget.I don't know how people do so many party's either.I surely don't have time either.I can hardly keep up with the ones that I do.Thank YOU for hosting every week.

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  51. Amen! Amen and amen! As hostesses of a party that has now grown quite large we fully understand the HOURS and HOURS that go into creating the party post and featuring projects from the week before and yet we still find the time to link back in our own posts to EVERY PARTY we link to as well as THANK the party hostess! Seriously if you can't take the 2 minutes to put a link in your post and say thank you than you are too busy to be participating at parties. the end.

    Also someone asked above if they should put the name of the blog/party as the link text. The answer is ideally, yes. When the text is linked to the url that is what creates a higher ranking withing google. So that is always the best way to do it, but really any proper link within a post is appreciated.

    I am sure Vanessa will agree that we will be sharing your post at this week's Inspiration Friday, it so well written and with grace and class! Thank you Kim! ~Heather

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  52. Thanks for explaining that... I just started blogging again after about a year. I was not fully understanding the whole link party deal... Every time I ask someone I never really get an answer, so I appreciate your post greatly!
    Bristol

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  53. Thank you, Kim for hosting each week. I am new to blogging and didn't know about parties at first. Your party has been a wonderful source of traffic and I want you to know I appreciate all you do.
    Katie
    Let's Add Sprinkles

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  54. See you at WOW tonight with your blog button afixed!
    Thanks for hosting!
    Yvonne

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  55. You do a tremendous amount of work for your linky party. Thank you, thank you!

    Hope, I am doing everything right.

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  56. Hey Kim, how about a part two to party etiquette: Linking up relevant subjects! If I am reading Kim's lovely home design/diy blog, no offense, but I'm not interested in someone's harrowing IVF story. If the link isn't relevant to the host's blog or party theme, it's the same as party crashing.

    I link back to the host in the post because it's good manners. I think I forgot once and you scolded me. Ouch! I keep a Party Page on my blog as well because there are times I find someone whose blog I like through a link party so I like to see where they party regularly all in one place. Plus, it helps me keep track of whose partying on what day of the week. Finally, even though I have an Etsy shop, I never, ever link a post that plugs my shop on a link party (unless it's the Party Theme).

    I know these link parties are a lot of work, and I appreciate your efforts!

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  57. What used to kill me when I hosted a linky is bigger blogs would link up, but not put my party (or any party) on their post. What's up with that? I hope you open some eyes, Kim.

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  58. Wow...I so did not get that post, but I'm glad others know the intricacies that are link parties.

    I guess that why I just read blogs and make comments as the mood strikes. It all sounds so confusing. LOL!

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  59. So well said Kim!! Your party is one of my biggest referrers as far as parties go- and I join a lot of them each week!! I appreciate you posting this and reminding everyone of party etiquette!!

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  60. Kim, thank you so much for explaining. I've been guilty out of ignorance, but now I know! I appreciate the time you took - and the pleasant way in which you explained - to get it straight for me.

    Thank you.

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  61. Well, I am comment number 64 and I am not sure you will get down to my comment but here goes anyway. I agree totally, that the link needs to be in the post and highlighted and accessible. I am not a fan of the "button" as this becomes a lot of clutter for everybody. I think for me what is annoying is that when I join a party I do visit as many other people as I can. Actually as of late I have stated in my comments that I am visiting from such and such party and that as a good party-goer I am here to say hello. I am sure that makes me appear as a bit of a nut but sometimes I feel that it is a post and run kind of game that people start to play at these linky parties. I really do appreciate the effort behind the party host but it seems that the numbers are out of control. Things certainly are a changin'. Great post. I rarely comment here but I do love seeing what you are up to.

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