Always Look on the Bright Side

4.23.2017

Seriously y'all I keep laughing at what has been going on lately and wonder if I'm secretly being filmed for Candid Camera or some other reality show. Life goes along so smoothly and then BAM things go awry very quickly. As I told y'all my mom is in a nursing center for a fractured pelvis, but I never told y'all how that happened. So I thought I would share her very freak accident and what's going on lately with me, too if you missed it on IG and FB. With all that has been going on I am staying positive because there is no point in being negative. "Always look on the bright side".



My step father's daughter who is, I guess in her fifties, is on dialysis while on a waiting list for a kidney. She was feeling very lightheaded after a treatment so her father and my mother went to pick her up to take her home. My step father was on the top step unlocking her door, his daughter behind him and my mom behind her. His daughter is obese and she got lightheaded and fell backwards on my mom who is not big and 84 years young. My mom was crushed and therefore her pelvis was fractured from the blow. She was carried to a local hospital in that area which was seriously awful with one wing closed and very little staff. Two days later she was moved to a much nicer hospital and again two days later moved to the nursing center she is in now.  Problem is she is not handling the injury or the situation well at all.


She really does have good care there with nurses, aides, good food and physical therapy so she can get better in order to go home. She hates being there though and calls me several times telling me how bad her morning has already been and could I please come. Normally I am already planning on going, but the afternoon is usually better since her mornings are busy with PT and then she goes to lunch in the dining room. She has had numerous visitors from family, friends and church members. She has been given things to do and read, but she just sits in the wheelchair with no motivation to use those things to pass the time away and my mom loves to read. She'd rather sit there and let her mind dwell on every little negative thing which is not a healthy thing to do.

I have told her she needs to do things to keep busy and quit dwelling on all the negative stuff. She needs positive thoughts to get better so she can go home. I have reminded her that this is temporary and she will get better. She knows she has a negative attitude, but can't seem to snap out of it. Yesterday was four weeks since the accident. She is supposed to be better in eight. I sure hope so.

On top of all that has been going on with my mom I had my yearly skin check and had a biopsy done on my left leg that came back positive for squamous cell carcinoma. I had to go back in for a few more biopsies in that area to see if there was more. One of the four other biopsies also came back positive. So I had to have the skin cancers removed and that appointment was last Tuesday and had been scheduled for two weeks. The morning of the appointment was going fine. I was dressed and while Mr. Savvy got ready I carried my breakfast into the sunroom and some how some way my right foot turned and I heard and felt a pop and almost fell. I could not believe this happened! I broke the ankle on this foot many years ago so I knew it was broken when in happened. I kept my surgery appointment, that took us two hours in Atlanta traffic to get to. since I didn't want to wait any longer. I hobbled in there in a lot of pain with every step. I had the skin cancer surgery and was there three hours. Afterwards we had a quick lunch in the car and then went to an urgent care facility close to our house. I kept laughing on and off because this didn't seem real!



 I was x-rayed and yes, my right foot is broken. It's the fifth metatarsal and it's a break that should heal with lots of rest. The orthopedic surgeon said if it had been just a bit further up I would have been much worse and could have needed surgery, Whew! He switched me from the boot that I got at the urgent care place to a shorter one that pumps up inside with air. It feels so much better.

So I am getting around in this boot for the next eight to ten weeks. I'm hoping for less. I'm supposed to get a knee scooter, too, but when we went back to pick it up on Friday the shop was closed and their hours are 10 - 7. Not the way to run a business. I go back in a couple of weeks for more x-rays and I also get my stitches out that same week from the surgery on my left leg.


I can't drive and can't run and take care of my mom like I was, but I think she may finally be on the mend. My husband is now my driver for awhile, but he also has to work so I will just have to visit her a bit less now. My husband is such a trooper and taking very good care of me.


I cannot thank y'all enough for all your comments, prayers and best wishes on IG, FB and here on the blog. I am truly blessed with the best readers and friends out there!!

Enjoy your day!

67 comments:

  1. Attitude is everything, Kim and you certainly have a great one. Happy healing!r

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  2. I'm so very sorry you're going through all of this at once!! Prayers for a speedy recovery for you and for your mom.

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  3. Such a great attitude you have with all that's going on. I'm praying you heal quickly as well as your sweet mother. Lynne

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  4. I am so sorry for all you are going through right now. I too am dealing with a foot problem from a couple surgeries and trying to stay positive. Some days are better than others. Thank you for the positive quotes you put up! Having rented/borrowed a knee scooter twice over the past couple years, I would suggest just buying one on Amazon. You can get a nice one (if there is such a thing) for about 160.00, which is cheaper than rental if you have to pay 100.00/month. And they will deliver it next day if you have prime :)

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    1. Yes, we are going to buy one. It is cheaper than renting it. I found I could buy on line, but haven't ordered one yet. My husband will check the local shop again tomorrow since it is about the same price as what you said. Hope you heal soon and thanks!

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  5. Oh my Kim...when it rains it pours! I will continue to keep you all in prayer. It really is a team effort. Praying with the brighter beautiful days your mom's spirits will be lifted. A suggestion...does she have a calendar she can mark the days there, days until release on? Sometimes visually seeing progress that way can help. Maybe mark the end date with something special? I pray you take it easy as well. I know you, like me, stay busy and active, but rest is so important with delicate foot injuries.
    We are headed out of town for a week, otherwise I'd offer to help out since you're not far from me and I could use the company (we lost my MIL just a month ago). I'll check in when we get back. We might could both use a therapy trip to Q of A by then ;-)

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  6. I have an idea how difficult this situation is for you. My mother will be 89 this summer. She has frontal temporal dementia. Her negativity spiraled out of control about 4 years ago, and she was put on citalopram. It helped!

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  7. Just wanted to add my prayers and best wishes! God bless!

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  8. Feel better, get better, stay happy !! Enjoy the sun & flowers on your charming deck! You'll be back at it before you know it - we're all pulling for you!



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  9. You poor thing! 8-10 weeks?? Yikes! Attitude is huge and yours is good. Your poor mom as well. Maybe at her age it's scary to be in a rehab place, even short term, because sometimes people don't come home, they end up somewhere else. Even though that's not her situation, the mind is powerful and she could be scared. I hope she's already doing better. Hang in there!!

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  10. I have discovered this is true..."aging is not for sissies!" Heal quickly and get well soon.

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  11. Kim, my heart goes out to you. I take care of my mother, and some days are difficult. Keep up your good attitude because some things are out of your control. I was going to suggest books on tape for your mother. They help mine tremendously.

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  12. What a load you have on your plate right now! Good for you for the positive attitude. Positivity is a powerful thing. Hang in there and as we always hear, 'this too shall pass'. Hugs from Texas. :)

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  13. Good grief, enough is enough. So sorry to hear all of this and all at once.

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  14. oh my, you really have been through the mill! I hope for quick recoveries all around, for you and your mom. I can relate to your circumstances somewhat, too. Especially with your Mom. My mom DID NOT accept aging well and when she got sick, she was simply done. She was so down that I went for over a year not telling her my cancer had returned. That was hard. She lived far from me, so only saw me on occasional visits, so I could pretend ( I kept my hair on that go round).

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  15. wow....Prayers for you that life will settle gently down again.
    That your Mom gets better soon and you too!
    Nancy
    wildoakdesigns.blogspot.com

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  16. Staying positive is a proven way to heal faster. I hope both you and your Mom heal quickly.

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  17. When it rains it pours! Thank goodness you have a positive attitude...laughter is the best medicine! Ok...enough of the sayings. Hope everything goes smoothly from now on...with your mom, too. It is very easy to get depressed in a care facility...you just have to keep spouting the positive to her! My mom was in a nursing home for almost 10 years...and once she accepted her life...she adapted. Your mom has an out date...something to look forward to....you need to keep reinforcing that! Hope this time goes quickly for You! ;)

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  18. Sorry to hear about all. Stick with your positivity, it works! Prayers out to you, and your mom. Hopefully the Lord will help her to find strength and will to get through this and heal completely. To you: recover well and soon!

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  19. Wow, Kim, wishing both you and your mom a speedy recovery! It certainly sounds like this too shall pass and you seem to have a healthy attitude about it all. Take advantage of the forced rest to do some things you were previously moving too quickly to leisurely enjoy... :-)

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  20. Kim,
    Hope your recovery and healing will go quickly! Sometimes all you can do is laugh to keep from crying. I know its harder when you are worrying about your Mom and her health issues as well.

    She seems to be getting excellent care and support in her rehab and has plenty of visitors as well. My Mother in law is in an assisted living and suffers from depression and dementia. My sister in law was coming every day to visit her and it was really starting to weigh on her and her well being because of my MILs negatively. The administrator advised her to limit her visits to 3 times a week.

    Believe it or not, things improved with my MILs attitude and the visits were more pleasant. My MIL actually starting going to the social activities and engaging more with other residents where she hadn't been when my SIL was visiting every day. Everyone's situation is different but in my MILs case everyday visits where not the best thing as it wasn't giving her the time to adjust to her surroundings and socialize with other residents her age.

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    1. Yes, there is no way I can go daily anymore anyway since I can't drive. It is actually a relief that I can't. Her negativity was weighing on me big time and my husband was getting upset about it and worried about me. This broken foot was a way of slowing me down, I guess.

      Thanks

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  21. Bless your heart! As they say...and this too will pass. 😊 I broke my 5th metatarsal a couple of years ago. I was about to do more damage trying to learn how to use crutches. Ha ha. I Almost fell a few times. Your boot looks better than my boot, therapeutically. My mom is same age as your mom...I hope she improves quickly. Love your positive attitude.

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  22. On the bright side, isn't the saying "it comes in three's" so your done with all that now and should be on the up side! Wishing you and your mom all the best!

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  23. So Sorry, Kim for all your troubles. I had a similar situation with my mother who was 90 last August, when she fell and broke her pelvis in two places and her neck. I can say from first hand experience that what your mother is feeling is referred to as the "Sundowner Effect" a common condition for elderly who are hospitalized or in care facilities. Google it if you don't know what it is. My mother who was a sweet and loving woman had a severe case - she became delusional, paranoid (partly from lack of sleep) and verbally abusive. We stayed with her as much as we could to distract her and counted the days until her rehab could continue from home. You just have to keep remembering that she is not herself. Try to find any other family members or friends that can go and visit while you are unable. I hope you are back on your feet again soon! Feel better and hang in there. Time heals all.

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  24. Sending love and prayers for quick healing and good health to you and your Mom.

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  25. sorry about your unfortunate circumstances and your moms! Try Craig's List. My daughter broke her foot when they were visiting us a couple Summers ago she bought a scooter. Things like this are not used long so like new condition. She's a teacher so needed to get around school. Worked out great for her and cheap. Hope you heal well. Love your Blog!

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  26. Hate that you are having so many problems right now. Hopefully everything will work out for you and your Mom. My Mom had a minor stroke and went to an assisted living center for rehab since she could walk with a walker. Well...long story short, she decided not to do any more therapy and went from walking with a walker to total wheelchair dependent. Also she wears diapers now since shed also refused to get up to go to bathroom too. She just lays there and wants you to do everything for her. This is a woman who had been on her own for 25 years since my father died and was mowing her large yard with a riding and push mower up until this happened. She is 89 years old now. Make sure that she stays POSITIVE. We have tried everything but nothing works. No depressing. We don't know what to do so, please, encourage your mom and I hope that she has a really good outcome.

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  27. EVERYTHING is filtered through God's fingers. Nothing in this world happens by accident. So when stuff like this happens to me, I automatically say, "OK, God, what are you trying to teach me?" (Cause, darn it, I still have so much to learn!) Praying for a smooth and quick passing recovery time for you and your mom. And praying for good attitudes, too! :-)

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  28. So sorry for all these troubles. The Morton Salt slogan is right: "When it rains, it pours." Hang in there. I love your positive attitude.

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  29. Keep positive and keep healing. Bless your sweet hubby. I will keep you and your mom in thought! 💙

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  30. Kim, so very sorry to learn of the misfortune currently in your life but love your positive attitude and all of the quotes. You probably know the old saying about things happening in threes so hopefully this is it! I'm not a huge fan of taking a lot of medication but perhaps your mom could benefit from a mild anti depressant. Best wishes for everyone, including Mr. Savvy!

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  31. So sorry for all this! You know my ankle injury and I'm SO glad that didn't happen when you fell. I could let this constant battle (5 years now) get me down, but I stay busy and don't dwell on it. Is your mom maybe on an anti depressant? Not trying to get personal, but seniors have a really rough time of it and it might help her feel better. I have been on one for years, and don't know that I could have toughed out this double ankle injury for five years if I wasn't! I have never worn sun screen in my life, so this could happen to me I'm sure. Keeping my fingers crossed for better luck for you. Oh, and I love that you took us through the whole story!
    Brenda

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  32. oh my, for both you and your mom. what a freak thing for your mom...and you on how your injuries happened. I wish i lived a bit closer to be able to help out but if you need anything just let me know. happy to help. take care.

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  33. So sorry these things have happened Kim. At the risk of sounding cliche,it really does sound like something that would happen to me!Lol Will be praying for you and your Mom.

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  34. Oh Kim, my heart goes out to you, I know that it is not easy, but you are handling it so positively. Just want you to know that you are in my prayers and thoughts. Soon you will be back to decorating, antiquing and all the good stuff we all LOVE to see and read about! Hugs and Blessings to you!

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  35. Wow, sorry to hear you are going through so much Kim. Hopefully this will be it for awhile :-)
    Take care - hope you and your Mom are better very soon
    Jeannette

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  36. Oh my gosh... you poor thing! Stay positive and keep up the good attitude to get through this. Hoping you and your Mom's recovery is faster than anticipated. Hang in there, Kim. Know a lot of people are thinking of you.

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  37. So glad you are staying positive, it really helps. You're poor sister must feel so much guilt for the injury your mom received. I pray she receives a donor soon and for you all I hope for a speedy recovery!

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    1. Not sure why we would feel guilt for our mom's injury. It was just a very freak accident. We don't really even know our step sister who needs a kidney. My mom got remarried long after I was married and away from home.

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  38. Well, you can't make this stuff up!
    I pray you have an uneventful recovery with both your left leg and your right foot. Blessings to your your for a speedy and full recovery too. And, finally Bless Mr Savvy - he is a trooper, a keeper, a truly solid guy ~

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  39. Hang in there, Kim. I am so sorry you are going through this.

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  40. Oh my Lord! This is so much like what our family has been through lately. Last July my stepson fell and broke his neck and is now paralyzed. He's had 2 surgeries on the neck, the 2nd one to correct the 1st one. He's living in a Personal Care Home now because his Dad and I can't do all he needs. I have chronic gout in my right foot, and a knot on the talus of my left foot so I walk like grandpa on the Real McCoys (if you remember that old tv show). And I've had that fashion boot a year or so ago too, so I know how much fun you are having!! Take care, and kudos to your Mr. He's a keeper!!

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  41. Kim, sending my prayers and best wishes for your recovery and for your Mom!

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  42. They say bad things come in 3's, so I think you should be good for a while :) Hope both you and your Mom are back to normal soon!

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  43. Go glad to hear your Mom is on the mend, and that your on the mend as well. Will be keeping you in my prayers.

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  44. I am so sorry you are going through all this. And your Mom too. I am keeping you both in my prayers. Hope your leg and foot heal FAST and your Mom gets a little relief from her depression.

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  45. Keep up the good thoughts!!! Pray, laugh and hang in there, it will get better again!!! What a mess!

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  46. Kim, I'm sad to read that you are dealing with all these issues, but your positive attitude will carry you though. Good for Mr. Savvy! Take care and get well soon!

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  47. Most people would feel totally overwhelmed by all of this but your attitude is incredible, always look on the bright side indeed, you are an inspiration. Keep smiling, it's all upwards from here xxx

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  48. Great attitude Kim! Hope your healing is quick. Best wishes for your mom.

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  49. It does sometimes seem that when it rains, it pours! You have a great attitude, Kim. I'll be putting you and your mom in my prayers. blessings and hugs ~ tanna

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  50. It does seem like when one thing goes wrong (especially health wise)things pile up. I hope you heal fast and that your Mom's spirit brightens after she leaves the nursing home!

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  51. I always say things happen for a reason. Here's to a speedy mend. Positive Affirmation! Take care!!
    I never knew that knee scooters existed!!!

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  52. Praying for a speedy recovery for you and your mother. I do believe attitude is the key to recovery so you will be running around in no time.

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  53. Oh my goodness!! Heal quickly and keep up those positive thoughts! Sending prayers your way.

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  54. Sorry to hear this, and for your mom's trouble too. I think it is common for older folks to be a little caught in a down feeling when health goes awry, not the easiest time of life, even for the most upbeat of people.

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  55. Kim, your attitude is amazing! So sorry you're going through so much all at once. Hope your mom recovers quickly - and of course I hope you do too! I needed to hear your message today. I've been under the weather for 8 weeks - getting better but it's been a slow process. I'll keep you in my prayers. Keep your spirits up! I know that's sometimes easier said than done. You're a trooper and glad your hubby is so supportive!

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  56. Sorry to hear about all of the travails. You probably aren't used to all of this down time! May I suggest some visual therapy -try the miniseries called "Big Little Lies" with Reese Witherspoon and Nicole Kidman. All I can say is wow. It was excellent. It'll take you away....

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  57. I am so inspired by your positive attitude, Kim. I hope you heal quickly!

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  58. You poor girl! So sorry about your Mom's attitude BUT your attitude is GREAT! You stay positive! I broke the same bone in my foot last April. Not fun. Take care and I love your blog.

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  59. Take time to rest and enjoy some quiet time while you're healing Kim. My MIL had a fall a couple of years ago and broke her ribs and it was harder on all of us since she was depressed. Hope your mom heals quickly and your foot too!

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  60. Woo, you do have a lot going on. I feel so bad for you. I know how stressful it is to deal with a somewhat stubborn parent that has been a real downer. Good for you for always looking at the brighter side of things. Maybe this thing with both your feet was a away to tell you to slow down and take care of yourself. Please take the time to recooperate, we need more people like you with wonderful attitudes on this earth!!!

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  61. Oh my goodness, honey! I don't comment much but I will say a prayer for you and your family! I live in the Atlanta area and it certainly is a problem now. Yes, be positive and better things will happen! At least you do have a lovely home to sit in and read a good book!

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  62. I really enjoy your blog.

    ....just writing to say that I am praying for you and your family as you go through these challenging times.

    May the peace of Jesus Christ sustain you,
    Nancy :)

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  63. When it rains, it pours. I hope the sun comes out soon and brings only good things your way! Your positive attitude is inspiring, and I bet it helps you heal more quickly! Sending prayers and positive thoughts for both you and your mom.

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  64. I hope you're beginning to feel better by now! My father had the same kind of cancer last year and everything was fine after it was removed. Hope that cheers you up!

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